Once, while visiting a family I've known for years, I saw a Playboy gatefold pinned to the garage wall. Not believing that the man of the house would have done this I asked his wife why it was there. She told me her teenaged son had put it up. When I asked if she objected, she said no. âI'd rather have him learn this way than some other way.â
Unfortunately I had no appropriate response at the time. If I had thought of it I would have run inside, grabbed one of those cheesy high school mugshots of one of her daughters, gone back to the garage, placed the photo over the model's face and asked, âIs it still OK?â
My point is that the naked woman in the gatefold is someone's daughter â someone treasured (I would hope) by her earthly parents, and certainly by God, her heavenly Father. Any woman deserves more respect than to be viewed only from the neck down. And every woman ought to object when one of their gender depicts herself in any way as a sex object and thus makes it difficult for the rest of them to find respect from men and even from other women.
We live in an insanely oversexualized society. It's been estimated that 2,000 porn sites go online every day. Police departments all over the U.S. now patrol the Internet to catch sexual predators, one of whom murdered a young teenaged girl in my town roughly a decade ago. Teens emphasize sexuality because it's all around them, and sometimes, as in the case of Britney Spears or Miley Cyrus, teens become role models for outrageous behavior.
My question: How should (your) children learn about sexuality? And if you had to choose between sex and love, which would you choose and why?